Is online dating safe? Dating can be risky no matter where you meet
The internet has become the dating method of choice for millions of people and the vast majority of them, including myself, have been very happy with the results. Is it risky? Yes it is but so is dating in general. Remember these common sense tips and you’ll be as safe as you possibly can be when dating online.
1. Don’t give out your personal details
If you are looking for suitable dates on line you could be talking to a lot of interested people. They don’t all need to know where you live or your phone number. Don’t give them this information until you know them a lot better and you’ve met them in the real world.
2. Don’t enter into any financial arrangements
Wherever there is opportunity there will be a small number of thieves and criminals. The Internet provides many opportunities for thieves and con men so there is a small possibility that you might meet one of them online. Thieves who prey on people looking for dates online are most likely to be after one thing – your money. So don’t ever give them any or enter into any financial transaction with them no matter how plausible their story is.
This is a very important tip because it’s a common ploy of online thieves to persuade you to do things like opening a bank account that they have access to so that they can deposit money into it. They invent some reason for you to draw out the money and send it to them, which you do because everything looks ok. Some time later the bank informs you that the check that had been cleared into the account was forged and the money has been removed from your account. It’s a simple confidence trick so don’t fall for it.
3. Find out everything you can about your new friend
Ask as many questions as possible and look for inconsistencies in his story. Find out where he lives, how old he is, where he works, what he does and anything else you can think of. The more he tells you the more certain you can be of his sincerity.
4. Examine his story carefully
Confidence tricksters tell you a pack of lies to get you to do what they want you to do. It’s very difficult to make up an elaborate set of lies that are all believable and don’t contradict so it’s not difficult to see through it if you look carefully enough. You only have to find one piece of information that you can definitely identify as a lie to cast doubt over everything else he tells you. If you find that he’s lying then walk away.